Danger Zone!!! (Is the Comfort Zone)

Danger Zone!!! (Is the Comfort Zone)






Man life is hard! But it’s only as hard as you make it. A wise man once said "A person who is too comfortable ends up losing it the most." Some people can become physically and mentally lost by doing something with no ambition. Fearing change is dangerous because the world is forever changing as you are forever changing.

Within a years time it is possible to move or even fall in love. In a month's time you change your hair, learn a new skill, redecorate your house and reorganize your space. In a days time you can possibly read a new book, visit a new place, enjoy an interesting conversation. In a hours time you could’ve cooked something new, spoken to a high school friend or watched a new movie that gave you a different outlook on life. Here's the thing though, are you making change or is the change just happening around you? You are not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, a day ago and even an hour ago. Once you understand this; why fear change at all?

Too often people continue a job they hate because they are too comfortable with collecting a check that only lasts until the next check. Telling yourself “this is life, it's always been this way”. It does not need to stay that way, you are just too comfortable to make the change.

People are afraid to take that first step out of their comfort zone because their afraid of failure. How can one fail if they never made the effort to try? But how can one succeed if they do not try? Are you afraid to try because someone else told you that they failed? So what! You and the other person are two different individuals. Their failures are different from yours! What you learn from it will prove that.

Think of failure as practice. When you're practicing something new you do not succeed the first time. You failed, right? Think of it as being a controlled failure. Change your view on what failure means and you will have a better outlook on moving out of your comfort zone. It's not as scary as it looks, to leave this danger zone. With exiting the danger zone comes growth; giving you the chance to grow to the person you want to be.

What are some ways to help lead you to the undiscovered you? There are usually three different ways to help you emerge into this undiscovered zone.

The first one is Chaos. The lack of control and unpredictability to a situation. Many believe unpredictability is all bad but it is not. If you were to hit the lotto or inherit something amazing from a family member that you did not really know too well that would be awesome and also chaotic. These are things  you could not plan for that are unpredictable and may cause turmoil for a spell but happen to be positive to your life. The key to keep in mind for leave the danger zone with this step is that it’s all about your attitude. Remember what I said, that all unpredictable things do not have to be bad? At the end of the day there are some bad situations and events that can happen. You can lose your job at any moment or have a traumatic event happen and uproot your whole life. How you respond to these events will make you better or keep you looking for that same comfort that you can no longer get.

The second step out of the danger zone is with The Guide. The guide is a mentor, friends, family, faith or even your boss.  People who usually take this path usually just need a little push. If these individuals are left on their own they can sway themselves back into their comfort zone. I use this way of exiting my comfort zone often, it is my mentor and friends that push me out of my comfort zone to do things I thought would be difficult but was not at all. One occassion that I can reflect on often was when I was doing a talk panel at the YMCA . A friend knew I would have a difficult time leaving my comfort zone to do the Q&A. With the conversation I had with him I was able to take that first step in front of a crowd and speak.

The third step and some would say most important is Yourself. Usually the point where you say “enough is enough”. This is the most beautiful one in my opinion. You come to your own and decide to leave the danger zone and back it up with your actions. You do not need anyone or anything to help you make the first step, you just went along and made the change. We hear about these stories all the time. That person that was tired of the way they were looking and lost 300 pounds. That person who thought their city did not have anything to offer them and moved to another continent and created a life for there self there. That person who seen that injustice was been done and decided to not move to the back of the bus.

Are you making change or are you letting others dictate your life? Who is in control of your life? Are you that comfortable been in a routine that you did not set up for yourself? These are the questions that can change the outlook of your zone. Discover the unknown you!


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By: David Alabi


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    1. What is the purpose of this post. If you want to promote it you can just go to my IG page to promote your site

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  2. Being in our comfort zone for many may be a way to feel safe, but I have learned it on my skin ... it is often the most dangerous place!

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    1. That is deep, some people don't get that lesson until it to late and full of regret .

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  3. I love being in my comfort zone but I know it does hold me back sometimes so this year I have decided to get out a little bit more.

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    1. That is great. The way I make it easy for my self is taking on one thing a month and staying consistent with it.

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  4. I need to get out of the comfort zone more often. It is hard as I hate change and will fight it.

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    1. It all in your mind. The mind make things easy to believe, but that also means it easy to change.

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  5. I think it is important to get out of your comfort zone now and again. I do it. Not all the time, because life is short and all and I want to me mostly comfortable, but once in a while I will, and I'm mostly glad that I did. Sometimes I do regret it though.

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    1. I feel like you should not regret. You should take it as a learning curve, for something that you did not understand and now you do.

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  6. Sometimes you really need to take that step out of your comfort zone and try something new. You never know where it might land you.

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    1. That is the thing about the comfort zone and stepping out of it. It something that you are OBLIVIOUS to at the time. But think of it like this, if you riding a vehicle no matter how much you prepare for it. You wont know what on the road until you travel for it.

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  7. I was stuck in a comfort zone for so long - but I recently started to make some changes. I am definitely so much better for it.

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    1. I am glad that you are taking step out your comfort zone and making changes. Remember change always happen.

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  8. Great post. Getting outside of our comfort zone is a great way to grow and learn. It's so nice to have friends and mentors there to help.

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    1. That is very true. I am currently working on a post about mentorship, hopefully you will like it too.

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  9. I think this is one of the best ways to learn! Some people might find it scary but it can also be exciting to some

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    1. Yes, and that why I remind people that it their comfort zone not someone else. I might already be cool with jumping out plane and skydiving, but for someone else that never even thought of the idea it most be horrible.

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  10. The Comfort Zone is an interesting place, isn't it? I almost wonder if it should be referred to as the "Settling Zone"? I do enjoy being comfortable in many aspects of life including my day-to-day job. I don't foresee changing it any time soon BUT starting my blog was my leap into doing something new, something different. It's been rewarding finding my own voice affiliated with my passions. I guess this means I am in my Comfort and Discomfort Zone? :)

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    1. I am so happy you found a way to share you voice and give people the insight that you more than that regular person. Stepping out of your comfort zone does not mean change everything in your life, but it means add something to it. Well that how I take it as. Like you said you enjoy your day to day but doing that one little spin on life you step out of your usually and made a change to your day to day.

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  11. I wouldn't know what it's like to be a man, but I know that it's most important for me, as a woman to be comfortable!

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    1. As a men we look to be comfortable too. I not the idea of taking away your comfortability to leave the danger zone but to explore something new. As a mom I sure you left your comfort zone plenty of time having to deal with kids. There is certain things that you did not do when you had no kids vs one vs 3 kids. I am sure your life is forever changing for you!

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  12. Sometimes is good to leave the comfort zone and grow to do other things and learn from them.

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  13. As a woman and a parent, I am always out of my comfort zone. I don't think I'll ever find my way back to it again :)

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    1. I was just tell @The Super Mom Life that. I think it will be great that you two will share stories. If possible I will love to hear some of them.

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  14. it is very important to get out of your comfort zone in order to discover the joys of life. However, danger zone is not the same as getting out of your comfort zone.

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    1. Very true that most of the joyful moment are usually outside of my comfort zone. But I do believe it you want to achieve a certain fulfillment in life, comfort zone is the danger zone if that is your goal.

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  15. A comfort zone is a place where you are not growing. If we stop growing we die. Just like a flower.

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    1. That is deep, I understand that point of view.

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  16. Expending one's comfort zone is always helpful to be more confident and adventurous in life.

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    1. I agree, expanding one knowledge about place, things and people is a great way to leave the comfort zone.

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  17. It is funny how different people can be. I am pretty much willing to try anything and my brother always said he didn't want to try anything because then he couldn't fail.

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    1. But the true question is how will he know he will fail if he do not ever try? He cant possible come to that outcome with out trying.

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  18. Sometimes being in our comfort zones never really teaches us anything. like they say, experience is the best teacher.

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